Day 4 - Healthy Habit Accountability Challenge

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💥💥 For the next two weeks, I am sharing one #healthyhabit to practice and keep ourselves accountable to being our best selves every day 💥💥

If you're just joining us you can catch up and review:


DAY 4- What's Your Why?

Can you identify your why(s) or reason(s) behind your nutrition habits and choices? Maybe you've never even thought about it. Well, today is the day!  


When it comes to #accountability and creating #healthyhabits, women are preyed upon by the media and society from a very young age. We get conflicting and shaming messages in every area of our lives, literally from the moment we're born until the day we take our last breath. We can't age, celebrate our differences or the amazing things our bodies can do, because if it doesn't fit a media image, then shame shame shame.

Now, of course, because I am a female, I've shared my experience, but this certainly isn't gendered specific because I've seen the same marketing affect every person from all walks of life. There's a prevalent message out there, driven by social media and marketing that tells us, "Hey, you. You're not enough, and let's face it. You'll NEVER be".


Our reasoning or why behind what we do our nutrition choices may have been ingrained into you from a VERY young age and you don't even realize it. Starving yourself to fit into an outfit or for a special occasion, white-knuckling yourself through a meal with friends because you're on a restrictive diet, over-exercising because you over-indulged the day before? Sound familiar?

And as a coach, MY WHY is driven from changing the narrative I had in my head based on early life experiences that lead to me define myself as I navigated the world.  


I'll be vulnerable here.

  • I was born a daughter (in a family that values male children). It was always made clear this wasn't ideal.

  • As a child and adolescent, my body looked physically different than my siblings and female cousins. I had a much larger frame and height, and as I grew up was told over, and over that, I was too BIG. As a result, I translated and internalized the term "big" into fat and not good enough in comparison to my family and other girls.

  • I was an active child and continuously told I was too loud (which I interpreted as being bad)

  • I was strong-willed and said I was too bossy and talked too much (which I interpreted as being wrong)

  • If I couldn't learn to brush my hair, then we would cut it off. After my first pixie haircut, the constant teasing began. You look like a boy, don't you want to be a girl? How confusing? I was already too big, too loud, and too bossy. Just like a boy.

  • I would overeat to please, then undereat to please.

  • I was behaving in a way that was extrinsically motivated to try and please others despite being my best self. When I learned to embrace everything about being perfectly ME and surrounding myself with everything that nurtures my best self (including exercise, food, and dietary habits) then things changed for me.

  • It was just not enough. 

Little humans, to this day, continue to grow up with confusing messages like this. And we're taught to believe it and then worse; we perpetuate it amongst our own.

Shall I go on?


Did you have similar experiences or pervading thoughts about yourself?

When I tried losing weight by starving myself, that idea didn't just pop into my head one day. I believed the lies and the myths that I'd be happier if I were a certain number on the scale, or got physically smaller in size that people would like me more, and everything would be perfect.

OMG!!!


NONE OF THIS IS TRUE. NONE OF THE THINGS THAT WERE SPOKEN OVER ME WERE MEANT TO HURT. IT WAS SOCIETALLY ACCEPTABLE AT THE TIME, AND WHAT WAS TAUGHT TO THE PEOPLE THAT DELT IT OUT.


What a bunch of bull s!$&t!!

I was behaving in a way that was extrinsically motivated to try and please others.


Your WHY should ideally guide every goal, habit, or action you take. YOURS. Not what others say, or lead you to believe.  

You WHY is guided by either:⁣⁣

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INTERNAL motivation⁣⁣

or⁣⁣

EXTERNAL motivators⁣⁣

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🚕 Internal motivation is like you driving your car to your destination, while an external motivator is like something else driving the vehicle for you to a predetermined destination. At the same time, you sit in the passenger seat. It’s obvious which is the better choice; you should be in the driver’s seat of your own life. ⁣⁣

Everyone can be internally or externally DRIVEN to achieve our goals through #habitchange. However, in my experience, once you adopt an internal motivation based on knowing you WHY behind actions and habits is when actual lifestyle change occurs. It becomes yours and yours alone.

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Shifting from external to internal motivation is necessary to take complete ownership of your goals. 💪 However, deciphering which kind of motivation you have is difficult, as external motivators can become so ingrained in us that we start to believe them internally.⁣⁣

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I was behaving in a way that was extrinsically motivated to try and please others despite being my best self. When I learned to embrace everything about being perfectly ME and surrounding myself with everything that nurtures my best self (including exercise, food, and dietary habits) then things changed for me.


As a human who is abrace everything about being perfectly ME and surrounding myself with everything that nurtures my best self (including exercise, food, and dietary habits) then things changed. I began living according to my WHY!


It took a lot of years to heal from that BS and to heal my mind and learn to live my body.

As a human who is a


I coach people of all ages, from their early teens, 20's, 30's, 40's, their '50s and 60's (women AND men) who still believe that if they hit a certain number on the scale, their lives will miraculously change. Joy is lost chasing after something that isn't real, and the consequences can have a lifetime impact on physical and mental health.


Can we all agree that:

  • There is no perfect diet

  • There is no ideal body

  • There is no example of the perfect way to look

  • There is no ideal number to weigh on a scale.

I figured out my WHY and began living according to my core values because I stopped believing the lies the media bombards us with daily. My happiness and health have nothing to do with the way I look or how my body performs. NO ONE CAN DEFINE THAT FOR ME unless I give away my power. ...


As a human who is ao heal us or torment us. I get to choose how I use food and for what purpose. I use it to fuel the things I love. Exercise, and maintaining a healthy weight that's perfect for me. Not anybody else.

As a a human who is a


I OWE it to those I love, influence, and work with to share my why and my truth, then help them find theirs.


To women individually, and all my readers generally, work to identify your WHY. It's a process and evolution, but once you start, you can continue to grow and refine, and enjoy the heck out of your life!  

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The easiest way to figure this out is to describe your own WHY - I challenge you to sit down and think about whether internal or external goals drive you. So again, I ask you: What's your why for your nutrition and accountability? 🤔 #wellnesswednesday


If you need to talk, need some support, or any resources, please reach out! We're in this together. I'm here to help.



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Author: Deb Preachuk, BRS, BPE, CF-L1, Pn-1, is a Comprehensive Certified STOTT Pilates Instructor, Level 2 Foundation Training Instructor, TBMM Corrective Exercise & Posture Alignment Specialist, and the founder/owner of Pain Free Posture MN.  


In addition to running PainFree Posture MN, Deb is a Fitness Coach at Orangetheory Fitness and teaches regularly at the Apple Valley, MN location.



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